Be yourself; Everyone else is already taken.
— Oscar Wilde.
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Trapped in a dark space?
Have you ever felt like you just couldn’t get out of a very bad situation, for example like an abusive relationship, domestic violence continuously happening at home, or any other dangerous situation. I ask this because I felt trapped in a very bad situation for a good chunk of my life. I thought that I’d never get out of it and after a while I started to think, “Maybe I don’t deserve any better.” Eventually I started to believe it. That belief will really mess you up and believe me, it took lots of time before I knew how to reverse that belief. The way I was able to reverse it might not work for everyone but I will give you some advice as to how you can begin to reverse that horrible belief.
How To Reverse That Life Threatening Belief “I Don’t Deserve Any Better”
- Catch yourself when you are having negative thoughts and re-adjust them
- Seek people who make you feel like you matter
- Tell yourself something positive everyday
- Realizing you have done nothing wrong
- Realizing that the person who is harming you is the one in the wrong and might be mentally ill
- Changing your thought pattern
What To Do When You Are Being Abused Mentally Or Physically
I know that sometimes it is extremely difficult to reach out to anyone and tell them what is going on. But trust me, if you find even just one person who you can fully trust, telling them the situation could help a lot. They might give you the courage to leave the person if you are in a physically abusive relationship, or if you are being abused by a parent or abused in anyway, that one person who you can trust might just give you the courage to remove yourself from the abusive situation. Some of the time removing yourself from the situation isn’t easy or sometimes is near impossible. So another thing I recommend doing if you are being abused in anyway is reaching out to the police or a counselor, and telling them the details of what has happened. Sometimes it is very hard to express what has happened, but trust me, things will get a heck of a lot better after the right people know what has been going on, because then your abuser will most likely be persecuted and an investigation will start. After this happens there is a huge chance you can begin to feel safe and start building yourself back up again. I really hope that some of my advice can help you in someway.
Introduce Yourself (Example Post)
This is an example post, originally published as part of Blogging University. Enroll in one of our ten programs, and start your blog right.
You’re going to publish a post today. Don’t worry about how your blog looks. Don’t worry if you haven’t given it a name yet, or you’re feeling overwhelmed. Just click the “New Post” button, and tell us why you’re here.
Why do this?
- Because it gives new readers context. What are you about? Why should they read your blog?
- Because it will help you focus you own ideas about your blog and what you’d like to do with it.
The post can be short or long, a personal intro to your life or a bloggy mission statement, a manifesto for the future or a simple outline of your the types of things you hope to publish.
To help you get started, here are a few questions:
- Why are you blogging publicly, rather than keeping a personal journal?
- What topics do you think you’ll write about?
- Who would you love to connect with via your blog?
- If you blog successfully throughout the next year, what would you hope to have accomplished?
You’re not locked into any of this; one of the wonderful things about blogs is how they constantly evolve as we learn, grow, and interact with one another — but it’s good to know where and why you started, and articulating your goals may just give you a few other post ideas.
Can’t think how to get started? Just write the first thing that pops into your head. Anne Lamott, author of a book on writing we love, says that you need to give yourself permission to write a “crappy first draft”. Anne makes a great point — just start writing, and worry about editing it later.
When you’re ready to publish, give your post three to five tags that describe your blog’s focus — writing, photography, fiction, parenting, food, cars, movies, sports, whatever. These tags will help others who care about your topics find you in the Reader. Make sure one of the tags is “zerotohero,” so other new bloggers can find you, too.
Scars Do Heal 